As I've began writing on this blog and made the decision to leave peoples names out, I've realized that almost all of my friends names start with the letters S, K or J so this might begin to get confusing... but with that aside, I wanted to talk about the friend I've made over the past year and a half.
Going away to a college 6 hours away from home where you know next to no one is absolutely terrifying. The only two people I knew, A and R, I didn't even really know them. I had met R when he transferred to a college near me before returning to the school him and I both attend but A I never met. We knew each other from a mutual online friend but as he lives where I now attend school and we were only 15 when we met it was never possible to meet in person.
The first two/three weeks here we absolute hell. My roommate and I did not get along, A and I never quite hit it off in person so our friendship didn't grow, I was dating M at the time so I was miserable that he wasn't there, I missed my parents, nothing seemed right. I cried almost every single day. The recruitment rolled around and I knew I wanted to go. Every day I'm so thankful that I found the courage to walk into a room full of woman I didn't know and put myself out there. I don't know where I found the confidence to do it, but I'm so happy I did.
After the first day of recruitment I made a friend that I went to all of the bid parties with (funny enough we had the same name). It was so nice having someone to walk into these rooms with, to discuss which chapters we liked and ones we weren't quite as fond of. I really enjoyed hanging out with her and I wish our friendship continued to grow after recruitment but it kind of came to an end. Soon after though, I met M (here begins the doubling of initials, sorry in advance for confusion). She was going through recruitment as well and we realized we lived in the same building. We exchanged phone numbers and she invited me down to her room on Bid Day to find out who we got bids from. Surprisingly and luckily enough, we both got into the same sorority! That was the start of my first real friend at college. We hung out almost every day, I began confiding in her when me and M were having issues and especially when we broke up. I don't think I would have been able to be so strong though it without having her to hang out with.
Her and I were basically unseperable throughout the beginning of our new member process in the sorority and people know that. But we went to our first mixer together (a party on Thursday nights, usually hosted by one fraternity so the sorority and fraternity can get to know each other) and met two other girls, S and K. After that mixer the four of us were then known as the Fantastic Four. We had a groupchat where we talked about everything and everyone, hung out all the time, went to parties together. I was so happy I had finally found my core group of friends. Then one day on twitter me and one of my other pledge sisters were talking about a television show and definitely hit it off. The next day or so I went out to dinner with her and another one of our pledge sisters she was close with. Soon after, the Fantastic Four had two new members and became the Super Six. The Super Six for reference consisted of me, K, S, K, S, and M (couldn't be more confusing, sorry).
Sadly, M and I had a falling out towards the end of the semester that affected everyone in our friend group. Although I most definitely didn't push for it (in fact, I told them not to let our falling out affect their friendship) we all lost touch with her. She just became distant not only with us but the entire sorority. So the Super Six became the Fab Five and that is where it remains today. I can honestly say I've never felt closer to a group of girls before in my life. Every single day we are there for each other, supporting each other, encouraging everyone to better themselves and their lives. The amount of times everyone of us has came running to another in a time of need is absolutely crazy and so humbling. A few times that stand out to me was once last semester K called me bawling her eyes out to the point that I couldn't even understand there. Me and S (my roommate) ran to my car and over to her apartment complex to see what was wrong. Soon after K and S contacted us because they had heard about what happened on twitter (it was a huge news story) and wanted to see if she was okay. That night the five of us had a huge sleep over at her apartment to make sure she was okay and could make it through the night. The next and possibly the biggest moment for me was when M and I broke up last semester. I was broken in a way I never was before, feeling a pain I never thought was even possible. I've blocked out most of my memories from the first two weeks of the break up but from what people have told me I wasn't good. They were by my side the entire time. When I called them in the middle of the day and two of them left their classes because I was trying in a bathroom, when I called S the night it happened and she ran from her building to mine in the freezing snow to be with me. I couldn't be luckier to have the friends that I do.
Recently, we've all been getting closer with the pledge class that just came in after us. Unfortunately all of their names start with J so that just adds to the confusing haha. I'm so happy we're finally getting closer with them because honestly, they are some of the nicest and funniest people ever. I'm just so thankful for my sorority for introducing me to these amazing woman.
Now, even though I just spend this entire post talking about my friends that I've made from the sorority, I can't forget my best friend from home, E. E and I have been friends since about 8th grade but really became best friends our senior year of high school. She's been with me through all of my break ups, through my first few miserable weeks at college, through my miserable life at home when I was at community college. I can honestly say she is the one friend I have in my life I refuse to let anything or anyone come in between. It's so hard now for us because I go to school in PA (where we're from) and she goes to school in WV. On top of that, her family moved over last summer so she doesn't live in PA anymore, she goes between two houses one in CO and one in FL. It sucks knowing how hard it is to see your best friend but we've made it work for the past three years and we're gonna continue to make it work for the rest of our lives. I love you, E.
“Life is an awful, ugly place to not have a best friend.”
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